That Special Someone
I just had a run with my ex-supervisor and we talked about some of the craziest things in life. Definitely not anything related to being wild or anything, but instead more of the views on things that happened around us.
To start things off, we weren't agreeable on each and every thing, not even close. Our views can be described using the word "bipolarity" at times, but that doesn't stop us from talking about them.
Think about it. How many people in your life can you confide in? There are definitely things that you won't normally share with your "friends", but I believe there aren't a lot of people you can share them with openly too. At least that rings true for me.
Let's call this bunch of special people "X". I have come to realize, it really varies from people to people in their choice of "X". Different people look for different traits in a person in order to qualify him/her as "X". For example, some would be attracted to "X" who is truthful, while other might prefer their "X" to be sympathetic. Some will choose "X" based on fondness, and a handful would be openly opened to "X" who gains their respect.
Only we know ourselves best. Not really true, but I do make it a point to keep myself in check every now and then. Gathering all the "X"s in my life, I have come to a conclusion. Respect plays a huge role in determining who I would love to be that "X". Nothing huge, as it's just a preference. Maybe you could try giving it some thoughts and figure out who are you more inclined to pour your heart out.
To me, it doesn't matter at all if that "X" agrees with me 100% on everything. Contrary to popular belief, most, if not all, of my "X" friends have criticized or offended me on various occasions. Some even do it on a regular basis. But... who cares? It's the RESPECT that I have for them that matters, their honesty in front of me that I value. Of course, that doesn't mean I am a sadist or anyone who insulted me will be qualified as "X". It is because, I respect them in what and how they do in their lives.
Receiving criticisms and advises is part and parcel of life. I am never afraid of facing the truth and the brute honesty that comes with it. But I do agree to a huge extent, it really depends on where is that piece of information coming from. The same line told by 2 different person is mostly likely accepted by someone differently. Even I myself admit that, I just wouldn't listen to people who didn't gain enough of my respect. It's a flawed trait of mine, which I couldn't change despite knowing that for a fact donkey years ago.
Ultimately, it really boils down to individual's acceptance level. If I have to kill every mofo who told me I am stubborn, I would be raking in a ton of kills by now. Instead of listening to "Nah, you're great", why not let's all try to accept the truth for once? Truth hurts, but it's part of growth.
Let's not fall slave to the technology that we are so proud of. Social media has made most of us to read what we want. Try to think back, when is the last time you read something that is the exact opposite of your opinion and stopped to think about its relevance? This doesn't mean that your opinion is wrong, but you can't prove that you're right without getting out of your comfort zone either. Most of us are trapped inside the filter bubble, falling prey to the denial trap. Perhaps, the links below will help.
It's late and I have got to hit the hay now. Hopefully, I would be able to share my thoughts on another topic that has been brought up today.
Death: Revelation of The Ugly Humanity
- A death in the army reinforced my take on life.
My Take on Friendship
- An initiative speaks a thousand words.
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